Have you ever heard the saying, “Happy wife, happy life.” Well it is actually the secret to a happy marriage. Marriage is not as hard as people make it out to be. It really gets complicated when two people have nothing in common and are not on the same page, or they are constantly trying to be right or win arguments. Mind you, the wife is usually right, but some husbands can’t seem to figure that out😂.
Quick observation… men who have been happily married for a long time will tell you,”My wife is always right, even when she is not.” These sensible brothers are not out here trying to win a battle, they know how to win the war. Make her think she is right and keep her happy. Once you give a woman what she wants, she will leave you alone in peace. It’s not rocket science. If she wants to talk or “communicate”, let her. What is in it for you? Sex, food, whatever you want. You see if you give us intimacy, we give you sex.Aww! If you are constantly trying to win an argument with a woman, then don’t expect a satisfying sex or happy life.
Here is the formula: Good Communication=Intimacy =Sex= Happy Marriage. The more this cycle occurs, the happier the marriage becomes. There are some men who are winning arguments (winning the battle) but losing the war. Their marriages lack intimacy and sex. Why? She is not happy. You don’t let her talk to you enough because you are focusing on winning an argument and not validating her feelings.
Gentlemen, I know that some of you may be asking yourselves, “So what the hell, I must just shut my mouth and exist?” (Yes) I am not saying that. All I am saying is, women are not very attracted to men who argue with them all the time (Sir Grumpy 😀). Women by nature are attracted to men who want to romance them and take care of them. Come up with solutions like how are we going to get the pipe fixed or assemble the table she just bought online, as soon as it arrives😎. Allow a woman to argue by herself sometimes. She will realize that it takes two to argue and eventually shut up.
If you want to be the “King” in your wife’s eyes, spend less time arguing with her and more time pleasing her and you will see who the real winner will be. The purpose of getting married is to devote your life to taking care of each other. Therefore, your focus should be on putting that person’s needs before your own. Nobody gets married to be constantly “put down” , ignored or abused. Yes, sometimes you have to tell each other the “hard” truth like, “ Babes I have been smelling your breadth lately and that is not the norm, but I think I may have a solution.” It’s all about unconditional love and support. I recommend you practice telling the truth to your partner during the happy phases of your marriage and not at the end.
You don’t marry a person to hurt them. You marry that person to love them for the rest of your life and theirs. If you were to focus on pleasing your wife or husband, you would have less time to focus on arguing or creating awful memories. The secret to a happy marriage is to focus on loving that man or woman with all your heart. Life is short and time goes by quickly. Focus on developing common goals, maintaining the same values, and making wonderful memories. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s not worth it. It is a lot easier to focus on treating your partner good, than treating him or her bad. This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And ladies, give the man a break. Pick your fights carefully. Don’t be a nag. Make him look forward to coming home to you. No argument is important enough to lose the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Guys, if you are truly in your marriage to make it last forever, take my silly advise, allow her to argue with herself and see what happens. You will be the winner. Remember those days when you were so in love and you could not wait to see each other at the end of the day? Everyday needs to be like that. Date nights are a must in a marriage. Surprise him or her with a present “just because”. Always work at being attractive for your spouse. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. I call it our “Performance Evaluation” sessions. This really works for my husband and I. Find out from your spouse on a regular basis, what you need to do to make your marriage better. This really works. Be open to the truth and address things as they arise, in a positive manner. If he or she says nothing, they are lying. We all need to work at something to improve ourselves.
Basia aka Slayer
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