Ladies do you feel guilty when you make time for yourself by treating yourself extra special? Ladies live your life. Do you feel like a bad wife or mother when you make time to do you? I don’t and I will tell you why.
The role of a woman is very complicated. It is even more complicated when you have a career outside of your home. Many people believe that stay at home moms have no careers, but that is a career by itself. Raising children and taking care of a home is not an easy job. It requires budgeting, shopping cleaning, communicating, and goal setting, just like any organization. It is also not an 8 to 4 job. It is 24 hours. So when you add a career outside of the home to this, it can be overwhelming because your duties at home does not stop because you have a job at another location.
So many women want a break but they feel guilty. My happiest girlfriends are those who take scheduled breaks from their children (with or without their husbands). Quite frankly, some day your children will live away from or without you and they would be fine. Many women have great difficulty after their children leave home for college or otherwise because they wrap their entire existence around their children’s lives. When they flee the nest (as they are meant to), they feel as though they are having an emotional break down.
When you learn to live a balance life and you understand that it is ok to spend and enjoy time away from your children, you become happier. Your children actually appreciate your independence. No adult child wants clingy parents. Children love seeing their parents happy and enjoying their retirement. This happiness does not start when your children leave the home, it starts right now. Go get your life! At the end of the day, you do not need anybody’s approval to enjoy your life. Not even your children. Life is no good unless you can truly live it. It’s all about striking the balance. Life does not stop for you because you have children. It is very important that we teach our children how to live a life of happiness and balance.
Aka Basia Powell