Let me confess my sins. When I was in my early twenties (not too long ago😂), I thought that turning 40 was a big deal. I was also uncomfortable with the word, ‘menopause’. Yes, I was one of those young women who felt that women in their 40s did not have sex. I am ashamed to admit it, but I was anxious about the idea of Sex After 40. I now know, I was wrong. Maybe, I should have paid more attention to the people who were telling me, “Life begins at 40!”
At that time, I was also told by older women that a woman does not desire sex during menopause. So I was terrified of the word menopause and the impact it would have on my sex life. Needless to say, when I turned 40, I was cautiously looking to see if those symptoms of the “declining sex drive” would show up, and I am happy to report, it did not😜.
In fact, I felt no different sexually than I did at age 25😎. I actually felt sexier and more liberated. It was as though I became more comfortable with my sexuality. I also faced the additional challenge of having had breast cancer treatment, so I guess I was so happy to be alive, have sex, and to be able to live to see age 40 and beyond.
Today, I no longer feel that way. I now know that sex is an expression of love and commitment between two people in a relationship. It plays a crucial role in holding that bond together. It does not stop with age. Once you maintain regular exercise and a good diet, you can engage in sexual activity with your partner for a very long time. Sex is not a bad thing. It is a great thing, and it is even better after you turn 40. Why? I guess you no longer have to hide the fact that you have sexual intercourse and by then you know who you are and you know how to do it well, because you have had lots of practice. In fact, if you are in a committed relationship and you are not having sex over 40, don’t blame it on your age, sometimes it is simply because your partner does not turn you on.
There are many healthy women, who experienced menopause prior to turning 40 and it did not shutdown their sex drive. Your sexuality has nothing to do with your age. It has everything to do with how you feel about yourself and your partner. If you enjoy spending time with your partner, you will have intimate moments that would lead to sexual activity at any age.
Basia aka “Slayer”
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