By Basia Alicia Powell
January 2020 has taught me many lessons and reminded me of old ones. Among them, is the fact that life is too short. I have witnessed close friends and public figures lose their loved ones. It has truly been a sad month for millions of people around the world. The devastating bush fires in Australia, bombing in Iran, tragic loss of legendary NBA player Kobe Bryant, his daughter and other precious lives, too name a few. Yes, the year has started with a bang and it has jolted many of us.
Four weeks ago we were all celebrating and wishing each other, “Happy New Year! ” So far, it has not been that happy for some. I was really happy to say goodbye to the past decade. For me, that decade left many scars. I put up with a lot of nonsense I had no business putting up with. However,with those scars came healing and growth. If I am being honest, I have already begun to repeat some of my bad habits. I must admit I came from the old school that made you believe that in order to qualify as a great wife and mother, you have to put yourself last. I have found myself doing this again. I have surrounded myself with takers for most of my life. I allowed others to highjack my dreams, in pursuit of theirs. I convinced myself that if I am having fun, I am not being productive. #Bull
I guess it’s due to the fact that I also grew up believing that it is wrong to have fun. Even though, I had a lot of fun growing up😀.Having witnessed all these tragedies, I have taken an executive decision from this point, that fun is going to be a major part of my life going forward. (99.9%) I will not be a part of any relationship, activity that is not bringing enjoyment and meaning to my life. For the past two years, I have been trying to live this way, but at times I forget and I am distracted by people who do not fully embrace the idea of what it means to truly live.
I am going to be more aggressive about my happiness. Mind you this does not mean I am going to be selfish, it simply means that I will not allow others to be selfish toward me and prevent me from enjoying my best life. I am engaging in selfcare. In other words, no imposters allowed. To my close family members and real friends, be warned! I love you, but you can only hang if you are interested in living ,loving and laughing. No negative vibes allowed. I am aware that challenges will happen, but together we will just have to drive out negativity with positive vibes.
I have been observing many people’s reaction to the news of Kobe Bryant’s tragic death. Most people did not know Kobe personally but his death jolted many. Why? It made them question their own mortality, something many people have difficulty doing. Lets face it, this tragedy was yet another reminder that life is short, and most people are not living their dreams. Kobe lived his. At the end of the day, we cannot tell God what to do. Kobe Bryant has achieved more than most of us will achieve in our lifetime, even if we live to be 100 years old. The question to all the people left behind is, “Are you truly living and enjoying your best life? Are you in the marriage or career of your dreams? What are you procrastinating about? After all is said and done what will you want your legacy to be? In other words, are you having fun?
If you have answers for the above, please do something about it, and make this world a better place. Prince Harry and Megan Markle made a choice to leave the royal family, aka “the firm” and royal fanatics are trying to assassinate their characters. So what? Many are calling them selfish. No, its called sensible. People will always have something bad to say about you. Everyone won’t like you. (Life is not like Facebook and Instagram.) You might as well be having a good time while they bad mouthing you.
Whatever you are facing today, take that first step to do something you always wanted to do for you, and don’t give permission to anyone to rub you of your dreams.
P.S And remember if you have nothing good to say about someone, keep your thoughts to yourself.
Basia For Life