By Basia Alicia Powell
For as long as I can remember, I have been a chaser. I thought it was called driven, ambitious, go-getter, whatever you choose to call it. This approach got me to where I needed to get to, but I did not know what to do with myself when I got there.
I am a product of an educational system that made me focus to on placing first in test, because second meant I failed. As I ascended on the educational ladder, the grading system changed to A, B,C, F. When I did not get an A well I might as well have received an F!
That is when my chasing began. If I wanted to reach somewhere I had to chase and I ultimately became obsessed with being in control of my life. So the bad news, and the break down came when I realized that I am not in control. For many years, I did not know how to break this cycle. I needed a grade for everything I did.
I would later discover that true happiness came from experiencing and being present. I did not need a grade, I needed to be me and pursue me. It was okay to fail and try again. I started to focus on enjoying the process of learning. I understood that some of my best lessons came from my failure. I was no longer seeking perfection. I was after improvement. It is ok to fail. I said it! It is not ok to ignore the lessons from your failure. I have a great marriage today, because I had a crappy one before.
When you are obsessed with chasing, you cannot enjoy the journey. Life is not about grades. It is about enjoying the journey to your destination. We were all put on this planet with different gifts for a reason. When you stop trying to fit into the boxes that were created for you and start designing your own box, you stand out and in the process you discover your version of happiness.
It’s been a few years since I started seeing life differently, but chasing is so engraved in me, I still have to remind myself every now and then to stop chasing. Live by your own rules and dance to your music. Most of all stop chasing and see what happens.
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