By Basia Alicia Powell
Why Women Put Themselves Last?
This week I am joined by these amazing queens Dr Stephanie Thompson @dr_smthompson and Dr Ayanna Eastman @ayanna.eastman. (See bios below)
I love being a woman. I feel like this is the gender I would have chosen if the choice was mine. I love dressing up, wearing make up, and I also enjoy being taken care of by my man. (Now taken care of does not mean being dependent. Hold on now.). It means that I enjoy when my man takes the time to care for me by making me a cup of coffee or tea, and taking me on a romantic trip etc. This communicates a love language that says, “I am still attracted to you and I love you very much.”
On the other hand, being an woman can be a be a double edge sword. We have been trained from generation to generation to put ourselves last. I am guilty of doing it to myself. For the past 10 years I have been trying to retrain myself, but it is sometimes difficult. Many women experience tremendous guilt when making time for themselves. I have to constantly remind myself that it comes back to when the aircraft is going down, I have to put my mask on first, before I can attend to the needs of my children.
This is a struggle experienced by many modern women with demanding careers, with or without a husband and children. You often find that something or someone has to give, and it is usually you. I got together with some amazing women to discuss this issue and the reason we consistently put ourselves last as women. Is it due to self contempt, upbringing, or guilt? I don’t have the answer. However, these doctors helped me set the record straight‼️
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Take a look at what they had to say on the issue:
Stephanie M. Thompson, M.D. is a Reproductive Endocrinologist and Infertility specialist at The Institute for Reproductive Medicine and Science (IRMS) at Saint Barnabas in Livingston, NJ. She is an attending physician in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Saint Barnabas Medical Center, and Board Certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility.
Dr. Thompson received her undergraduate degree in Spanish from Wake Forest University, Winston-Salem, NC and her medical degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She completed her residency in Obstetrics and Gynecology at New York University Medical Center and completed her fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at Rutgers-New Jersey Medical School.
Her special interests within the field include health and wellness in fertility patients and oocyte cryopreservation. Dr. Thompson has received many honors throughout her academic career and has actively contributed to the scientific literature in the field of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. Her research includes “Single vs. Double IUI for Male Factor Infertility” and “Human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) stimulation of Vascular Endothelial Growth Factor (VEGF) in immortalized endometrial stromal cells. She is currently a principal investigator for the “STAR” trial investigating the impact of pre-implantation genetic screening on pregnancy rates.
As well as her research involvement, Dr. Thompson is a frequent speaker on oocyte cryopreservation having appeared on CNN’s “Birth with Lisa Ling” as well as “The Dr Oz” show to discuss this emerging technology. She also regularly addresses groups of women contemplating egg freezing to help them navigate the medical and emotional aspects of the process.
Dr. Thompson continues to teach residents and medical students as the Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility Division Director for Resident Education at Saint Barnabas Medical Center. Dr. Thompson’s primary location is in Hoboken, NJ where her practice encompasses reproductive surgery, treatment of gynecologic endocrine disorders and assisted reproductive technologies including in vitro fertilization and oocyte cryopreservation
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Dr Ayanna Eastman
Dr Ayanna Eastman , Professor Communication, educator scholar, entrepreneur, proud single mother, sister, aunt, and most importantly, woman of God. (Check her out on http://www.successfulmom.home.blog )
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