You Can’t Stop My Flow

By Basia Alicia Powell

Ladies, are you surrounded by women who are quick to point out your flaws or the flaws of other women? Are they conservative with their compliments and simply not happy in their own lives, so it is difficult for them to be happy for you or others? If the answer is yes to all,  it may be time for you to switch things up.

Achieving true happiness is not easy, and maintaining happiness requires work. Surround yourself daily with happy people. People who feel comfortable in their own skins. If you don’t take this action,  you will be surrounded by closet enemies. And they will sabotage your journey.
My hubby told me once, ” I keep my circle tight because it is difficult to know what is on everyone’s mind.” That piece of advice gave me perspective.

I started the Ask Basia Video Podcast to teach women how to treat other women. For women to understand it is ok to call another woman queen and still wear your crown. It is ok to find another woman beautiful and still be beautiful. You attract what you give. It should be just as easy for you to give compliments, like you receive them.
I want to see all the women in my life prospering,  healthy and happy. I would be so lonely if I was the only blessed person in my circle. If you see another queen prospering and you are having a hard time dealing with it, ask yourself why. The answer might be your road to recovery.

The moral of the story is you get what you give. Energy is everything. Go out of your way to compliment another queen. Before you fix your crown, fix your heart. There is enough room in this kingdom for multiple queens, so nobody is coming for your crown. It cannot fit me anyway, as it was made for your head.


As a heterosexual woman, I sit here reflecting on the people who have hurt me the most in my life, and they happen to be women.  I acknowledge my role in the process as well, as I was a part of the cycle. However,  when you know better, you do better.
I am not there anymore and quite frankly, I cannot stop myself from growing,  nor do I need permission from anyone to grow. You may choose to ignore my success and growth, but it does not stop my flow. It does matter how you feel about another woman’s success, God placed us all here to fulfill a purpose. Nothing you or I do will stop his plans for someone else.You cannot stop what meant to be. Pray and wait your turn. And while you are praying, learn to treat other wome right and say good things about them. You feel me ⁉️

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