Ask Basia Video Podcast EPISODE 15- Sex Vs Intimacy

By Basia Alicia Powell

Many people confuse intimacy with sex.  I would agree that sex can definitely be a part of an intimate relationship, but an intimate relationship may not necessarily be a sexual one.

It is for this reason, I believe in the “90 Day Rule” in a relationship.  You may be asking yourself, “What is the 90 Day Rule?” It is that rule that suggests that a woman should not sleep with a man within 90 days of dating (in a heterosexual relationship).

Whether you believe in this rule or not, it stands to reason that a relationship has a greater chance of survival, if we are able to put great effort into the emotional side of the relationship from the onset. Couples who reportedly spent more time getting to know each other emotionally had a much greater chance of maintaining a successful relationship or marriage.

I am very aware that I am not an expert on the topic, so I invited my cohosts, who just so happen to be doctors and clinical practitioners.

Commentator Bios

Dr Sydelle Ross. (M.D.) 

Dr Sydelle Ross

Dr Ross is  Trinidadian American, Dr Ross, is an Anesthesiologist and Pain Specialist,(she is  triple board certified) and currently practices palliative medicine in New Jersey. She is also a classically trained vocalist who uses music to care for patients living with life threatening illnesses. Dr Ross’s podcast “Prescription in Song” is dedicated to promoting awareness of the healing potential of music and is available on Apple Podcast and Spotify. You can follow her on Instagram

Mrs. Lesley Ann Bailey

Ms. Lesley Ann Bailey is a Trinidadian/American. She is an Occupational Therapist, an entrepreneur, and a graduate of Howard University. Lesley- Ann is based in Washington DC. You can follow her on Instagram

Dr. Gabrielle V. William

Dr. Gabrielle V. Williams graduated from Hampton University in Hampton Virginia in 2001 with a BS in molecular biology. She later graduated from UNC Chapel Hill School of Dentistry in 2005 with a DDS. Currently she runs her own practice, Piedmont Dentistry Smiles, located in the University area of Charlotte North Carolina, which was established in 2011. Dr Williams is a member of the AJ Williams Study Club and the Old North State Dental Society.She is married to Elijah Beaty and they have a four-year-old daughter, Elle. In her free time, she enjoys travelling, and belongs to two book clubs. You can keep up with her on Instagram

Dr Stephanie Thompson

Stephanie M. Thompson, M.D. is a Reproductive Endocrinologist and Infertility specialist at The Institute for Reproductive Medicine and Science (IRMS) at Saint Barnabas in Livingston, NJ. She is an attending physician in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Saint Barnabas Medical Center, and Board Certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility.

Dr. Thompson received her undergraduate degree in Spanish from Wake Forest University, Winston-Salem, NC and her medical degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She completed her residency in Obstetrics and Gynecology at New York University Medical Center and completed her fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at Rutgers-New Jersey Medical School.

Her special interests within the field include health and wellness in fertility patients and oocyte cryopreservation. Dr. Thompson has received many honors throughout her academic career and has actively contributed to the scientific literature in the field of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. Her research includes “Single vs. Double IUI for Male Factor Infertility” and “Human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) stimulation of Vascular Endothelial Growth Factor (VEGF) in immortalized endometrial stromal cells. She is currently a principal investigator for the “STAR” trial investigating the impact of pre-implantation genetic screening on pregnancy rates.

As well as her research involvement, Dr. Thompson is a frequent speaker on oocyte cryopreservation having appeared on CNN’s “Birth with Lisa Ling” as well as “The Dr Oz” show to discuss this emerging technology. She also regularly addresses groups of women contemplating egg freezing to help them navigate the medical and emotional aspects of the process.

Dr. Thompson continues to teach residents and medical students as the Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility Division Director for Resident Education at Saint Barnabas Medical Center. Dr. Thompson’s primary location is in Hoboken, NJ where her practice encompasses reproductive surgery, treatment of gynecologic endocrine disorders and assisted reproductive technologies including in vitro fertilization and oocyte cryopreservation. You can follow her on Instagram

Dr. Marie-Laure Romney

Marie-Laure Romney currently serves as the Vice President of Operations for New York-Presbyterian/Columbia University Irving Medical Center, the #1 hospital in New York and #4 in the nation per US News.  Tasked with overseeing a workforce of 1900+ employees and an operational budget of $350M+ in the aftermath of a global pandemic, Marie is focused on rebuilding employee engagement, streamlining clinical operations, and increasing outpatient volume to drive revenue recovery and growth.

A seasoned healthcare executive with greater than 10 years of clinical experience leading multidisciplinary teams, Marie previously served as Vice Chair of Quality and Patient Safety and Assistant Professor in the Department of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, where she oversaw quality for the Department’s four ED sites and the telemedicine program and helped lead the department’s COVID response strategy, including the development and implementation of a COVID remote patient monitoring program.  Prior to joining Columbia, Marie was Director of Quality, Continuous Improvement, and Patient Safety, for the Department of Emergency Medicine at Kings County Hospital Center and Assistant Professor of Emergency Medicine at SUNY Downstate Medical School.    

Dr. Romney holds an undergraduate degree from Cornell University, a medical degree from Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, and a Master of Business Administration degree from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania.  A TeamSTEPPS Master Trainer with Lean Silver Certification, Dr. Romney enjoys leading interdisciplinary teams to drive meaningful change to help improve healthcare delivery.

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